So this weeks date was to teach my husband something he didn't know around the house, so I chose to teach my hubby how to be Type A. I found out early in our marriage that I am very type A and my husband is type A/B, but even more so that his type B'ness drives me to be more type A.
The Type A personality generally lives at a higher stress level. This is driven by
They enjoy achievement of goals, with greater enjoyment in achieving of more difficult goals. They are thus constantly working hard to achieve these.
They find it difficult to stop, even when they have achieved goals.
They feel the pressure of time, constantly working flat out.
They are highly competitive and will, if necessary create competition.
They hate failure and will work hard to avoid it.
They are generally pretty fit and often well-educated (a result of their anxiety).
The Type B personality generally lives at a lower stress level and are typically:
They work steadily, enjoying achievements but not becoming stressed when they are not achieved.
When faced with competition, they do not mind losing and either enjoy the game or back down.
They may be creative and enjoy exploring ideas and concepts.
They are often reflective, thinking about the outer and inner worlds.
So I decided to take on one area that I knew would help him out... the family calender. A while back I bought a huge office desk calendar and 4 markers and started filling it in. We each have a color, a color for together events and a color for Jocelyn's things. The purpose was to put EVERYTHING on there so we knew when we would need a babysitter and so Jonathan wouldn't forget things or be late to things. Also we use this calendar to make sure that we have a date night once as week as well. It was amazing to see how quickly our calendar got filled in but I think it put a reality check into Jonathan's mindset of how busy we are and where I need his help.
The calendar now hangs in the closet and we are committed to filling it a little more so that we can keep up with our busy lives and make sure to schedule in OUR time first :)
He says:
I suppose that I've been accused of being Type B often enough that i should believe it. The truth is Mia is infinitely more organized and structured than I am. So this was a good learning thing. It's not like I don't know how to keep a schedule and mark things on the calender. But having a giant wall calendar in the closet where its constantly seen helps curb most of my absent minded fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants-caused snafu's! We are insanely busy pretty much every day between both of us working, having an almost 2 yr old and another on the way, and attempting to keep a social life, and sneak in time with each other and maybe if we're lucky a little solitude as well. You get the idea, we're busy. Anyways, a shared calendar is pretty basic really. But it's definitely helping make life more streamlined for us. Good Job Baby!